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Ho’oponopono and the power of forgiveness

Updated: Sep 24, 2021

Forgiveness sets you free. Grudges, anger, revenge, resentment. These are just some of the feelings you can keep walking around with if you are not able to forgive someone.

Without forgiveness, you constantly keep on reliving old stories from the past, all the while projecting them on your life now and your future.

Did you know that for letting go, there is no tool as powerful as forgiveness?

Forgiveness -whether it is yourself or others- has a tremendous power to transform. It is also one of the hardest spiritual practices. But one of the most rewarding ones too.

Forgiveness does not mean that the person that has wronged you does not need to be held accountable for what they did. It doesn’t mean they did not do something wrong. Forgiveness is actually not meant for the other person. It is meant for you. Forgiveness can set you free and lead you back to love.

The purpose of life is to be restored back to love, moment to moment. To fulfill this purpose, the individual must acknowledge that he is 100 percent responsible for creating his life the way it is. ― Ihaleakala Hew Len

A holistic perspective on letting go. To release old pain and sadness, we have to actively release it from our bodies, our system, our thoughts, and our emotions. Forgiveness means that you can finally let go of what you have been carrying around all this time, so you can be free again.

Since in our holistic universe everything is connected, it does not matter if you forgive yourself or someone else. We are all one, after all.

A Hawaiian prayer for healing. Experience for yourself how liberating forgiveness is, by using the ancient Hawaiian technique Ho’oponopono. It is a beautiful healing and cleansing tool for releasing. A powerful short meditation, more like a little poem even. Originally it was an ancient Polynesisch prayer for healing. The Hawaiians borrowed it and have used it for a very long time in their society as an esoteric form of justice, to solve and release issues.

One of the most famous stories of Ho’oponopono is that of the Hawaiian Doctor Hew Len. His help was requested by the warden of a heavily guarded prison ward in a state hospital, inhabited by uncontrollable criminals. The situation was as bad that employees called in sick constantly and prisoners had to be chained. Dr. Hew Len treated the files of the prisoners for four long years, without actually meeting one single patient. The only thing he did was read the files and heal what came up in himself with the practice of Ho’oponopono. The results of his work are astounding: while the warden did not believe in Dr. Hew Len’s methods for a bit, even he had to admit that after a few months peace returned, patients healed and employees returned to their jobs.

Practice Ho’oponopono yourself. It is very easy to practice Ho’oponopono yourself for situations you want to heal, small or large. You can use it to forgive someone from your past. Heal a returning situation or powerlessness of injustice in a relationship. To forgive yourself when you have said or done something you regret. When you are in a nasty situation or when you hear something tragic on the news.

The four sentences. The modern version of Ho’oponopono -based on the original version with 12 or 14 steps- consists of four steps. The order is of no importance.

The four sentences are: I love you I’m sorry Please forgive me Thank you

Successively you practice love, remorse, ask for forgiveness and show gratitude. If you learn the sentences by heart, you can practice Ho’oponopono anytime, anywhere.

How it works 1. Take a situation in mind that you want to heal, a person you want to forgive, a challenge you are going through or a negative moment. 2. Say the four sentences. Say them out loud or quickly in your mind, it does not matter. 3. What does matter is that you have to mean every single word. That is where the power is. 4. Say the sentences as many times as you want and as you feel is needed.

The workings of Ho’oponopono. Practicing Ho’oponopono is letting your subconscious know it can release. The four sentences are like keys that allow new energy to stream into your consciousness. If you say ‘I love you’, you say to yourself and the whole universe that you are making space for love and harmony into your life.

Try it! You will see that you feel better instantly.

Let me know if it works for you!


P.S.: This is one of the tools I share in my coaching program. Contact me if you'd like to know more.


This article was based on an article originally written by me in Dutch for House of Awareness.



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